She’s driven to nest, nurture, and nestle with loved ones, and he’s the primary target in the early years.

But further, she expects him to produce, provide, protect, and problem-solve to assist with whatever she needs.

His naturally independent nature responds: He simply does the best he can. His best fades, however, if she fails to fully respect his primary self-interest, next.

He’s driven to make himself significant, to overcome Nature and other barriers, compete with men, succeed in the workplace, and shape human events. It’s his role in life, and progress and accomplishment are their own rewards.

Her naturally grateful heart responds: If he’ll do those things on my behalf, I’ll reward him for husbanding and fathering. 

Merging these natural differences compatibly leads to cooperation—good! Failure to recognize and respect these differences leads to competition—ungood!

Today, Amy brought over a beautiful purple dress for me to try on for the wedding. I was scared shitless when I saw that thing...was I going to fit?! Please, please, please let my fat ass fit into that thing without struggling. As soon as she left to use the bathroom, I quickly stripped off all my clothes and threw that sucker on.

OMG, I nearly cried...I did fit! It fit so beautifully! What the hell was I thinking? I had been losing alot of weight since the __________. I was afraid that if I had tried the dress on with Amy was there watching me...I would have probably had to squeeze my way through it. But no, my curves fit just beautifully.

More than ever, I want to workout...I'm starting to take interests in certain things (I can not name just yet) and I want to make sure I look awesome in it. No more treating my body bad, I am no longer a girl. I am a woman now, I have my needs, wants, and desires. This includes lust.

I am in charge of selecting the strippers for the BACHELORETTE party! MUHAHA

I..can..not..wait!! I suggest we have both male and female...I think it's better that way anyways. We'll just have to see what Amy thinks. 

Oct 26.27.28 - Vegas !!

My feelings were wariness and anxiousness. My needs behind these were freedom, autonomy and space. I can't remember the trigger.

I cried and was so happy that I cried as it was my body's way of telling me, all is not right. I sat with those needs for a while then went back to bed to sleep.

Today my feelings are a little different.

When I remember my boyfriend saying, "I'm in a relationship and I'm not happy with my life" on Saturday, I'm feeling annoyed, worn out, and concerned for myself. My needs are acceptance for who I am, self-expression and understanding. Therefore I'm giving myself permission to have this week alone to connect with myself.

Jackal Show:
I'm having a hard time balancing between looking after myself and supporting my boyfriend. While he is stressed and concerned about his work and talks to me about it, I've gotten so caught up in trying to 'fix' him or help him that I've let my own life get disorderly (haven't been to gym in a while, messy room, messy garage, files not in order, etc.). I'm so tired of hearing negativity from him I just want to get away from him and recuperate! If I could just support him by listening and giving empathy and not taking on responsibility for his concerns then I'm sure it would be easier to be around him.

I must find a way to support without taking on...

How?

Well since I heard the news about my Uncle, I've been keeping to myself and trying to keep myself busy. My Uncle hasn't came home yet. I did notice though how my grandmother went all out her way to make her son comfortable...even going to buy him a brand new bed-set from Rent-a-center, but she couldn't even help me pay for my 42" tv that had to go back? Bullshit.

I'm promising myself, the next time I move out, there will be no moving back this will be my last time . Today, I felt what it would feel like if I wasn't here. I'm fine with that. Sometimes I wish I wasn't in my own skin so I kind of knew what it felt like all along. I don't know what let me put up with their bullshit. I don't what made me keep coming back. Seeing that my siblings are getting better with their attitudes and they're maturing up a little bit at a time. I have no reason to be here and they have no reason for me to be either.

I'm up in my room half of the time, mind as well say I'm not here. Mind as well be invisible. Mind as well leave, its like I already left. Half the time they think I'm gone so I mind as well be.

I am starting to think about packing, like the weather in all the places we're going and how to pack minimally gong up! I am making sure I have all the Time/Date/Places all figured out before we go. What are we doing where and what do we need etc? It's best to do as much as I can before we go so when we go, we just fall in place. Oh if it were a perfect world! But I make sure we've left room for changes and traffic and weather! Things out of our control and we KNOW it will happen. I believe God challenges us to truely reveal our walk with HIM! I love it (God's ways, not being challenged)! Because it surely challenges me and in most cases I say, "you;'re right God, when he says 'LET IT GO!" heeheee

I have prayer requests I am emailing but realized it may be easiest to post here:

I trust you and your prayer teams will pray as you are led to do so, and any prayers are GREATLY appreciated!

• We have items in the storage unit to sell (table, chairs, 1966 malibu parts, wet/dry vac, ladder, etc)
• We need a projector to use during our travels in the states for our presentation , it can be returned to the owner after we leave Nov 7. Although we’ve been praying for one to use here in the field to show the Jesus film and other evangelical videos
• We need to buy tickets to return next year – so we’d need $800 for the four of us to come to the states in 2009 to keep our passports current and legal.
• We need to pay for luggage & pre-assigned seats to COME to the US or to RETURN to GUA on Spirit Air.

Eight bags is what we need round trip for a total is $190

They now charge for seat reservations *sigh* For the trips up and back, the total is $60

• We need to raise gas money for our tour. We have estimated $500 for gas total.
• Above all… just PRAYER… we cannot be here or there without it!!! In addition, please pray for our preparation, the print materials, the presentation, the limited packing and our home here while we’re gone, the ability to pay rent before we leave, pray for our travels (security with kids, carry ons and car seats), for use to bathe in GOD and give HIM the GLORY in it all!Again, Thank you!

   

  

Reference: 1218735614

ERS (www.ersjobs.co.uk) have a Client urgently seeking to appoint a Technical Clerk at their Wallsend office. Wallsend is the base for Engineers supporting a long term legacy PLC replacement project, for fuel route control systems on AGR nuclear power plants. A Technical Clerk is required to support the team of Engineers, to include technical documentation control and general administrative support. There may be opportunities to develop technical role further for the right candidate.

Location

Wallsend, Newcastle-upon-Tyne, UK 

Salary

Attractive package and competitive salary, commensurate with and dependent on qualifications and experience.

Job Responsibilities

Document control for a large engineering project in support of a key client. Using Asset Guardian to manage project documentation.

Scanning documents and signing them in, updating records with revised documents, issuing documents internally for review.

Collating reviews and issuing documents externally to the client.

Inputting design reviews.

Checking in, documenting and reporting new software/documentation delivered from the client. Procedures for using Asset Guardian will be provided.

Preparing documentation packages for delivery to site on installation, collating docs and burning to CD. (Also includes some paper filing).

Travel arrangements for the project team, completing travel forms with details of trip, accommodation and car hire needs, and passing them to the relevant parties.

Print and process engineers timesheets, scan them and forward to the relevant parties.

Expenses, scan and forward with timesheets.

Arrange meetings for client visits.

Day-to-day office administration, copying, scanning, listing consumables requirements.

To register with ERS, discuss, or apply for this position, please contact Energy Recruitment (ERS) on 01454 203 460, or submit a CV to cv@energyrs.co.uk

Reference: 1218735614

ERS (www.ersjobs.co.uk) have a Client urgently seeking to appoint a Technical Clerk at their Wallsend office. Wallsend is the base for Engineers supporting a long term legacy PLC replacement project, for fuel route control systems on AGR nuclear power plants. A Technical Clerk is required to support the team of Engineers, to include technical documentation control and general administrative support. There may be opportunities to develop technical role further for the right candidate.

Location

Wallsend, Newcastle-upon-Tyne, UK 

Salary

Attractive package and competitive salary, commensurate with and dependent on qualifications and experience.

Job Responsibilities

Document control for a large engineering project in support of a key client. Using Asset Guardian to manage project documentation.

Scanning documents and signing them in, updating records with revised documents, issuing documents internally for review.

Collating reviews and issuing documents externally to the client.

Inputting design reviews.

Checking in, documenting and reporting new software/documentation delivered from the client. Procedures for using Asset Guardian will be provided.

Preparing documentation packages for delivery to site on installation, collating docs and burning to CD. (Also includes some paper filing).

Travel arrangements for the project team, completing travel forms with details of trip, accommodation and car hire needs, and passing them to the relevant parties.

Print and process engineers timesheets, scan them and forward to the relevant parties.

Expenses, scan and forward with timesheets.

Arrange meetings for client visits.

Day-to-day office administration, copying, scanning, listing consumables requirements.

To discuss this or similar posts, please telephone ERS on 01454 203 460, or to Register your interest, register a CV with ERS, or to apply for this post, please Contact ERS on 01454 203 460, or e-mail cv@energyrs.co.uk. Thank you. http://www.ersjobs.co.uk

To register with ERS, discuss, or apply for this position, please contact Energy Recruitment (ERS) on 01454 203 460, or submit a CV to cv@energyrs.co.uk

Reference: 1218735614

ERS (www.ersjobs.co.uk) have a Client urgently seeking to appoint a Technical Clerk at their Wallsend office. Wallsend is the base for Engineers supporting a long term legacy PLC replacement project, for fuel route control systems on AGR nuclear power plants. A Technical Clerk is required to support the team of Engineers, to include technical documentation control and general administrative support. There may be opportunities to develop technical role further for the right candidate.

Location

Wallsend, Newcastle-upon-Tyne, UK 

Salary

Attractive package and competitive salary, commensurate with and dependent on qualifications and experience.

Job Responsibilities

Document control for a large engineering project in support of a key client. Using Asset Guardian to manage project documentation.

Scanning documents and signing them in, updating records with revised documents, issuing documents internally for review.

Collating reviews and issuing documents externally to the client.

Inputting design reviews.

Checking in, documenting and reporting new software/documentation delivered from the client. Procedures for using Asset Guardian will be provided.

Preparing documentation packages for delivery to site on installation, collating docs and burning to CD. (Also includes some paper filing).

Travel arrangements for the project team, completing travel forms with details of trip, accommodation and car hire needs, and passing them to the relevant parties.

Print and process engineers timesheets, scan them and forward to the relevant parties.

Expenses, scan and forward with timesheets.

Arrange meetings for client visits.

Day-to-day office administration, copying, scanning, listing consumables requirements.

To register with ERS, discuss, or apply for this position, please contact Energy Recruitment (ERS) on 01454 203 460, or submit a CV to cv@energyrs.co.uk

Reference: 1218735614

ERS (www.ersjobs.co.uk) have a Client urgently seeking to appoint a Technical Clerk at their Wallsend office. Wallsend is the base for Engineers supporting a long term legacy PLC replacement project, for fuel route control systems on AGR nuclear power plants. A Technical Clerk is required to support the team of Engineers, to include technical documentation control and general administrative support. There may be opportunities to develop technical role further for the right candidate.

Location

Wallsend, Newcastle-upon-Tyne, UK 

Salary

Attractive package and competitive salary, commensurate with and dependent on qualifications and experience.

Job Responsibilities

Document control for a large engineering project in support of a key client. Using Asset Guardian to manage project documentation.

Scanning documents and signing them in, updating records with revised documents, issuing documents internally for review.

Collating reviews and issuing documents externally to the client.

Inputting design reviews.

Checking in, documenting and reporting new software/documentation delivered from the client. Procedures for using Asset Guardian will be provided.

Preparing documentation packages for delivery to site on installation, collating docs and burning to CD. (Also includes some paper filing).

Travel arrangements for the project team, completing travel forms with details of trip, accommodation and car hire needs, and passing them to the relevant parties.

Print and process engineers timesheets, scan them and forward to the relevant parties.

Expenses, scan and forward with timesheets.

Arrange meetings for client visits.

Day-to-day office administration, copying, scanning, listing consumables requirements.

To register with ERS, discuss, or apply for this position, please contact Energy Recruitment (ERS) on 01454 203 460, or submit a CV to cv@energyrs.co.uk

Reference: 1218735614

ERS (www.ersjobs.co.uk) have a Client urgently seeking to appoint a Technical Clerk at their Wallsend office. Wallsend is the base for Engineers supporting a long term legacy PLC replacement project, for fuel route control systems on AGR nuclear power plants. A Technical Clerk is required to support the team of Engineers, to include technical documentation control and general administrative support. There may be opportunities to develop technical role further for the right candidate.

Location

Wallsend, Newcastle-upon-Tyne, UK 

Salary

Attractive package and competitive salary, commensurate with and dependent on qualifications and experience.

Job Responsibilities

Document control for a large engineering project in support of a key client. Using Asset Guardian to manage project documentation.

Scanning documents and signing them in, updating records with revised documents, issuing documents internally for review.

Collating reviews and issuing documents externally to the client.

Inputting design reviews.

Checking in, documenting and reporting new software/documentation delivered from the client. Procedures for using Asset Guardian will be provided.

Preparing documentation packages for delivery to site on installation, collating docs and burning to CD. (Also includes some paper filing).

Travel arrangements for the project team, completing travel forms with details of trip, accommodation and car hire needs, and passing them to the relevant parties.

Print and process engineers timesheets, scan them and forward to the relevant parties.

Expenses, scan and forward with timesheets.

Arrange meetings for client visits.

Day-to-day office administration, copying, scanning, listing consumables requirements.

To register with ERS, discuss, or apply for this position, please contact Energy Recruitment (ERS) on 01454 203 460, or submit a CV to cv@energyrs.co.uk

My name is Mr. Modern, (Well, not really) and I am not an adult. I am an average teenager living in the suburbs.

So why do you care?

I am the kind of guy that wants to publish myself on the web, and be a help, and a service to people.

So I decided to create a Blog.

This blog is about modern trends, as I observe them, and what to know, so you are in the know.

This blog is for anyone interested in knowing what's what in today's world, according to an average teen.

So to start off with, let me explain who I am.

I am a teenager who lives within a suburban town, and I watch and observe everything. I am known to be extremely tech-savvy, and with this savvy-ness I hope to answer any questions you have.

I am not one of the popular kids, but they all know me, and say hi from time to time. I see and observe and discover things I feel a normal teenager would not notice or even care about. Things about trends, social patterns, and other things.

This blog is to share these discoveries with you, giving you examples (with changed names of course) of instances where I observed these happenings.

I don't care what you think of me, my blog, my writing skills, or my dramatic way of expeessing myself, I do care about your problems, your questions, and your curiosities regarding the teenage world, technology, and culture.

So I am here to help. Please ask questions about anything, and I will try to answer them to the best of my ability.

I hope you will find this blog useful and interesting and full of information.

If you like this blog please tell others about it. More people to help, means more questions answered. Feedback is especially appreciated.

Sincerely,
Mr. Modern
Age 16

P.S.
Here is a list of topics to be covered:

Movies
Music
Teen Culture
Social patterns, traditions, practices
Technology:
Cellular Phones
Computers
The Internet
Gaming
Modern devices
Computer/Portable Music Player
accessories
Things you may not know were technologically possible.

Things to check out on the Internet, or your computer.

Computer tips, tricks,
and "did you know?"s

Texting/Internet-chat lingo and ettiquette (for those who don't know what "brb", "gtg", or "idk, my bff jill" means).

And anything else that you ask about!

All they wanted was for you to have it all, to be blessed with all the necessities they weren't fortunate enough to have. The things they'd give up the world for. But you don't see it, you never did, you never will.

For you are blinded by the wants that have come to rule your life. It is what drives you, not what feeds you. It is your downfall, in the end it is all you are.

Our life can only be truly fulfilled when we acknowledge we have a spiritual side and strive to satisfy it’s needs. Our bodies are basically animalistic with common urges and lusts, and tends to be negative. Our human bodies can be directed to become positive if we use our wills to overcome our human feelings and desires. It takes a strong application or our will to overcome a habit like smoking or overeating. Our spiritual side is of a higher order or being that exists in a unmaterialistic, dimensionless world. Our spiritual side is a reflection of our morals or motives. If we have good morals and motives, our spiritual side is positive, but if we have evil morals and motives, our spiritual side will be negative. Jesus said, “Out of the good or bad stored in the heart the mouth speaks.”

All humans since Adam have had a spiritual side, it is often referred to as our soul or heart. It is the part of us that will live on after our bodies die. I don’t know exactly what it is, so I can’t describe it to you, but it is a part of each of us we can contact directly, just as we can’t contact God directly. We can pray mentally or verbally to God, but He also knows all out thoughts and feelings, that is why we can’t ever fool God. Our soul also is like God because it sees all of our hidden and open feelings and thoughts. Think of it as a hard drive in a computer that stores all of our thoughts, feelings, moral, and motives. Just like a hard drive in a computer we can overwrite negative data with positive data, but it will take some time before much of a change will be noticed.

Spiritual Principles At Work

There are some spiritual principles at work in your life all the time. They work due to power from your spiritual side, and they affect your human or materialistic life, but they are controlled by inputs from your human side or thinking brain.

The first spiritual principle has to do with what you expect, if you expect good things will happen to you, that is exactly what you will get in your life. If you expect bad things to happen to you, that is exactly what you will get in your life. If you are like most people, you expect some good and some bad things and you will then get a mixture of good and bad in your life. If you change your human inputs by changing your attitudes and beliefs from negative to positive, you will change what you see happening in your life from negative to positive.

The second spiritual principle has to do with the way your are treated or judged will be based on how your treat and judge others. Your spiritual side some how keeps track of how you treat others, and somehow has the power to give you back what you give out. If you have always treated others badly but are tired of getting crapped on yourself, you need to start treating others good and so you will someday get treated good yourself.

These spiritual principles greatly affect our human or materialistic sides and are controlled by our brains and human actions, but they have a lot to do with the condition of our spiritual side which is a sum total of the collected data on how we live our lives.

Spiritual Needs

Our spiritual side also has some needs that operate on a higher level in us and in the spiritual world, but they also need input from our human brain and actions. The only way we can ever feel satisfied in this life is when we strive to fulfill them by the properly recognizing them with input from our brains and actions.

Our first spiritual need is for us to believe in a higher power or that there is a God and a spiritual world. You can deny the existence of both, but until you do you will never satisfy your spiritual need for God.

Our second spiritual need is for a personal relationship with God. God has been with you every second of your life, all you need to do is complete you side of the relationship and continue to work on it the rest of you life, and you will satisfy this spiritual need.

Our third spiritual need is for love. We think we need the love of a human so we chase after it all our lives and never seem to find the love we need, at least not on a lasting basis. The real problem with love is what we really need is the love of God and that is why we can never find the love we need from other humans. We also need to have love, but again most important we need to give love to God in return for His great love for us. We also are directed to love our neighbors as ourselves, but we can only do that when we first satisfy or two way love with God, and when we can finally love ourselves in a balanced way.

Our fourth spiritual need is to obey God, not for what we can get, but mostly just to satisfy our need to do right. When we obey God we get a peace that the world doesn’t know anything about. Obeying God is not just doing good when we feel like it, but when we don’t feel like it. We humans will never do an adequate job of obeying God, but that is OK, because God doesn’t expect us to ever be perfect. Obeying God is a way of life or journey that will continue until the day we die.

 All of the above are spiritual needs we all have, but God also has things He needs from us. The good news is, when we satisfy our spiritual needs, we are also taking care of the things that God needs from us, because Gods needs are one in the same as ours are.

Yesterday at Gainsborough Salvation Army we had a Harvest Supper and Quiz Night. Today was our Harvest Sunday worship with the theme in the picture. Marta planned and led our time together, basing her thoughts on the story of The Good Samaritan in Luke 10:25-37.

During the worship we used a PowerPoint meditation with some music in the background. It is entitled The Earth is the Lord's - and you can download it by clicking the link meditation-the-earth-is-the-lords.

We are affected by the choices we make, and others are affected by those choices. If we get our compassion right locally, we will get our compassion right globally. Our choices always have consequences, sometimes on our unseen neighbours in other parts of the world. The good Samaritan got his compassion right locally.

Who is my neighbour? Your neighbour is anyone whose needs you are able to meet. The challenge for us is to act locally and think globally, to be people of compassion.

The above photo is of part of our harvest display provided by a local farmer and a Gainsborough florist (Pink Orchid), and the one below is of the monetary offerings brought forward during the worship to support the Lord's work.

See also Civic Service 2008 and 5 October 2008.

Most everyone desires success. Parents want their children to be a success. But what exactly does that mean? Nine out of ten people I ask say that to them success means having a respectable career, abundant income and the high regard of others. And they also rate success as one of their top three priorities. Seldom do I hear a parent say that their goal for their children is honesty, integrity and compassion.

NO! They want their children to be successful.

Many parents expect their children to excel in all that they do in order to assure that they become successful. The parents often have exceedingly high expectations. They often feel that their children's performance is a reflection on them, which intensifies the child's guilt if he/she does not live up to their expectations.  This guilt increases the child's anxiety and reduces their sense of self trust often resulting in them denying their own dreams.

I can understand parents' desire for success for their children.  We all want our children to enjoy the best life has to offer. Successful people often seem to get the best breaks and to be above reproach regardless of their culpability.

Success Means Prefered Treatment

White collar criminals tend to serve less prison time and are not regarded with the same distain
as the common criminals although their crimes often involve greater sums of money and effect
many more people.

Some how, our society equates success with sterling character. Many times I have heard a newscaster say in shock and surprise, "No one would expect a crime like this to happen in such an affluent community." And of course, there are the inherent inequalities that plague the criminal justice system depending on the net worth of the accused.

Character is Found Equality in Rich and Poor

I have had the opportunity to live and mingle with the very rich and the very poor. I have never
noticed any significant difference in the general moral fiber between the two, expect perhaps the
poor tend to be more honest about their transgressions.

Although as a society, we tend to put the elite on a pedestal, as individuals there is the vague realization
that this is a lie. So why do we continue to honor this fairy tale?

Why Success?

I believe it come back to the question "Why do we want success?" The response is typically external items, such as wealth, leisure, prestige, respect, power and influence.

Although money can't buy you happiness, the truth is that money can and does make life easier, less stressful, and more enjoyable. And it is pretty effective at buying respect, deflecting judgment and providing the freedom to live as one likes. However, once you reach that pinnacle of success, it becomes more difficult to avoid facing the fact that there is still something missing.

Some people continue to avoid facing this truth by setting bigger and better goals. Some people use competition to mask the vague discomfort that arises after the climax of their most recent conquest. But what remains is the compulsive need to achieve more and more to seek that missing something in external conquests, various compulsive recreations, or blaming and criticizing others in order  to fill the emptiness within.

Basic Needs Must Be Met

Our obsession with success is fueled by our  basic human needs that success - career,
abundant income and the high regard of others- seems to represent. Maslow's pyramid specifies that certain basic human needs must be met in order to have a fulfilling life. Beside the essentials of food,
shelter, clothing, human beings also have psychological needs. People believe that  success
will provide these needs: a sense of belonging and importance; a feeling that one counts and can make a
difference, freedom of expression, creativity and self actualization. Many people believe  that by achieving success, they will be afforded these rights without the risk of judgment, rejection and condemnation for their choices.

Humans also need to have a sense of purpose. Pursuing success artificially fills this need temporarily.
However, once success is achieved, they feel an emptiness unless they have realized a deeper,
more substantial sense of purpose to which they can aspire.

Success!

So what is the point of these observations?

The goal to have a respectable career, abundant income and high regard of others is a wonderful objective. But the assumption that this form of success will result in freedom and fulfillment is a recipe for despair and disappointment, whether or not an individual achieves this goal.

Success that is solely defined by external accomplishments will never result in inner fulfillment, freedom
or satisfaction. Those attributes can only be acquired when we find personal success through Personal Freedom.

And that's an inside job.

Moving from my beloved Arizona to the beehive state, to be closer to family and to escape memories. And both (family/memories) equaled 50% of my decision. My sister had tried to commit suicide and kill her unborn child (only I knew she was pregnant) and I hadn't truly gotten over the love of my life. It was over a year since we had broken up, and over a year since I had seen family. It was almost fitting that both reasons led me to Utah.

The 2nd significant change was last July, when I moved to San Francisco for a new career within the same company. Things at this said company have changed so much, specifically in the last 6 months. Its has taken its toll on me, coupled with family illnesses and problems.

So now I'm here at this crossroad, because I don't  know how I feel (truly). I don't want to leave this city, but I also don't want to stay at this company. I spent many nights in frustration in a pool of tears and bottles of wine. It sounds tragic, and yes, imagine the irony of me at work, when I'm told by various people that they'd love my job. Oh, even the envy doesn't make me feel better.

I want to believe again, in something that makes me jump out of bed at 6am because I can't wait to get started. I jump out of bed at 6 now, but not for the passion. Rather to catch a shuttle.

So as I near midnight, I am waiting for a light to turn on in my mind. I don't want to crawl to my next adventure, I want to run to it. But right now I'm just spinning and running away.

It's one of the most dizzying and blissful feelings in the world, being in love. However, after the first few heart-pounding months whiz by, there generally comes a season for exploring deeper emotional sharing . . . a time for the practical and demanding process of learning to love another human being. This second phase of love can feel impossibly tough, especially if you have little idea how to step beyond trying just to get your own needs met.

In his book, "Here and Now," the spiritual writer, Henri Nouwen, comments on our human desire for love and connection, and the complexity that goes along with developing emotional closeness:

"The other, who for a while may have offered us an experience of wholeness and inner peace, soon proves incapable of giving us lasting happiness and instead of taking away our loneliness only reveals to us its depth. The stronger our expectation that another human being will fulfill our deepest desires, the greater the pain when we are confronted with the limitations of human relationships. And our need for intimacy easily turns into a demand."

Loving someone often feels like incredibly hard work, doesn't it? But choosing to engage in deep relationship is the most rewarding work we'll ever do.

Quality work requires good tools, so here's one that I believe is absolutely essential in nurturing lasting love. On a regular basis take the time to assess your needs and express them to your loved one. Then listen as the other person shares his/her needs with you. Finally, re-commit to try and meet one another's needs as much as is humanly possible, not out of duty but out of a desire to care for each other.

What's one of your most reliable ways to keep love alive?

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This message is for all of us. All who breathe, all who feel, all who need food, sleep, shelter and security. All of us who survive on this planet called Earth, which is a small part of this galaxy, which is again part of the Universe where millions of other galaxies and many trillions of similar planets exist, all of us who are born and are told that we would be dead sooner or later. There is enough evidence around to prove these basic facts, isn't it?

First of all my question is do we know who we are. Do we know what are we here for? Do we know what the purpose of our life is? Do we know what are we supposed to do? One thing one want to make clear is that this is not again a philosophical business. This is truth and we all know it. Most of us agree that life is all about money, food, sex, shelter and security. Are we aware that there is more to life than craving for money, desires and competition?  Do we ever try to find out more from life? Yes there are many people living here who are doing more than the four basic requirements mentioned before. But is it enough? We have great musicians, fighters, artists, sportsmen, speakers and many more of such great gems who dazzle our world. Yes, they are the crown. But is it enough? Can't we move further? Does life end here? 

We all know what business goes around in the world. We are confined with our desires, our mind. We do what we are taught and we do not ever dare to think more than that, because of fear; fear of losing our identity, or fear from powerful people governing this world. We all know that we are going to die, because we have seen it going that way with other people. That is something which creates agony within us. Then there is fear of emotions, we are humans. We have feelings and emotions. We cry, we laugh, we love, we hate, and we do all what is not mechanical. We agree that emotions are one important aspect where we could be distinguished from machines, robots and computers. I did not say trees, animals and birds because they too have emotions. They do feel anger, hatred, love and attachment too, although they are not human beings. They feel the love, they feel the agony. 

We are all living a mundane life no better than trees, animals and birds. It is actually worse. I can prove it is worse. Then we have mind, the desires and thoughts. Mind is something what rules most part of our lives, we human beings have multiple minds. Mind is nothing but ego, the self. It is what creates thoughts, it is what creates desires, it is energy behind all our sins and achievements. Yes, achievements too. Mind is a blind jockey which keeps whipping us all the time and creates desires and then provides energy to fulfil them. I said blind because it is biased. It cannot differentiate between truth and erroneous. It makes us keep running in this blind race where nobody wins. People seem to win or loose, but actually nothing is ever lost or won. 

It is here, survives eternally. Remember wise people have said, "Energy can neither be created nor be destroyed, but can only be converted from one form to another". We seem to own a lot of things. We own our house, our cars, our machines, our clothes, don't we? What is going to happen to all these possessions of yours when you die or when you don't exist? Somebody else will take over them. It becomes the property of somebody else. He is ruling it now; temporary dictatorship. When he dies, somebody else will take care. The cycle goes on and on, endlessly. The things survive, eternally, in one form or the other. Physical attributes change. They say, it all existed as a gigantic mass of energy. They there was the biggest collision in the history of Earth - Big Bang. That created universe, galaxies, stars and planets. Energy always exists. It can never be destroyed. You can climb the biggest mountains, swim through the Atlantic, conquer the stars, or dig out the deepest mines, it's all the same. Physical aspects are different, energy is always present. 

I am writing all this to trigger an inquiry within you, within me. Let us all inquire. Let us learn to inquire. Inquiring is not just probing or getting answers to your routine questions. Inquiring is deeper. Inquiring is more subtle. Inquire means to explore, to find out, to dig deeper; to find more meaning to all of this. 

Can we begin with the ground level? Can we again start with a zero? Why zero because all of your intellectual oceans, hills and valleys are made up of virtual sand, which blows away even with the smallest jerk of wind and which is an effort of the society at large, for their own benefits. Society has created your mind or rather nurtured it. They have taught you what was needed for you to serve them. They can't teach you more. Don't expect miracles from them. You will have to work on it yourselves. Your perverted and crippled mind is the gift or rather by product of the education provided to you by the society. A crowd can never be intelligent. Intellect, freedom and bliss are individual's aspects. An individual can be happy, or sad, or intelligent or idiot, or free or enslaved; crowd can never be. Society is a crowd. 

Remember nobody will do a favour. They cannot, they have their own self. They have to feed their desires; they do need their bread and butter. As long as you are helpful to them in one or the other means, they will help you. Lets us reclaim this fake business. You only can find answers to your questions. Nobody else can. I am a human being. I am weak, I have fear of death and I have desires. I have feelings. I am not god. I am a simple man like you all or rather weak. I am not able to understand all this matter. 

Gods are the nothing but our desires aggregated in larger masses. We create gods when we want. We ask them to fulfil our desires. We visit churches, temples and mosques only when we have something to ask for, but that is human nature. We are born with a self, an ego, a mind which makes you run all the time. You are not able to take a halt. Stop for a second and think. What if you fulfil all your desires of power, money, luxury, lust? Won't more of them arise when earlier ones have been accomplished? Does this business ever stop? It never stops. We continue to crave for desires. We go on and on. We never stop, because, if we stop for a second, we might start thinking what is all this nonsense. God has become a business. Temples and churches are biggest of shopping malls where gaining, loosing, negotiating and all that business goes on. We buy gods in rupees and dollars, if not, then in golds and silvers. We promise him to pay if he fulfils what we want. Is this the god we pray, is this the god we trust? 

Motion keeps us afresh with our desires and senses. That's why we keep running all the time. You know that stagnant water becomes useless. Mind is the same. If you stop for minute, you tend to think, what the hell is going on? And mind stops to work. Mind moves every inch to make you run again, in this endless world of thoughts, desires and needs. 

I am not against the mind; I am neither against desires, nor materialistic demands. I am an inquirer. I want to inquire, I want to find out. I have all these possessions. I love, I cry, I feel for other people, I have fear of death. I am not against this world. I cannot be. This is the only place we have, this is the only time we have got and this is the only life you are gifted. Let us all inquire, inquire within you, inquire the nature, inquire the trees, and inquire the world around, what is missing. Despite of all what we have there is something important missing, something substantial. We miss happiness and we miss freedom. We miss ourselves. We do not want to be machines, do we? Then let us all explore all the seen and the unseen. Let us find more out of it and then this all will start making sense. Even if you die within your process of exploration and inquiry, trust me, you would not go to hell, if there exists one! 

~Student of life, an Inquirer

If I were Martha Stewart, I might already realize that I pretty much need to monitor my reputation 24/7–actually maybe more often than that!

Well, Martha might want to check out this custom Trackur RSS news feed, we just created for her. You see, it appears that she’s crossing Google’s link-building guidelines and Michael Gray (and others) are not shy in spreading the word.

Now, here’s the thing: did Martha Stewart have any idea the hot water she was getting into? Probably not, and that’s my point. You may have a spotless reputation, but you never know when someone’s going to call you out and question your good name.

If you used Trackur–or your reputation monitoring tool of choice–you’d always know the moment someone–such as Graywolf–decided to hold you accountable for your actions.

So, Martha, drop me an email and I’ll hook you up with a free trial of Trackur–cos, girl, you need it!

“Trackur Trumps Google;” Adds New Features for Same Low Price!

You may think that an ex-player would stop playing once he's experienced love. I have found evidence that players are capable of possessing both a lover they need and lovers they want. If they found out, the guy would only have to say "I want them but I need you." Then there would be a question of his happiness being stripped from him because men apparently cannot practice abstinence according to him. The good girlfriend would probably not want to "strip" his happiness and remain with him. Of course, those girlfriends are probably dumb. Players also come in two types: successful and unsuccessful. These players take up a large percentage of men apparently. There is rarely a grey area. If you are a player, you either play a girl for whatever reason, be it lust or pity, or you have no girls. Both are equally desperate people in heart and usually take it to great lengths to build strong relationships with girls, hopefully acquiring a good catch. To prevent being played is impossible. Love itself is a risk.

As for female players, they are sneakier than male players. It's really hard to identify them because women are just naturally more worrisome. Instead of taking great lengths to build relationships with men, they use their time to make sure what they say and every little step they make won't backfire. The men will naturally come to her if she successfully displays her charm (not necessarily physical). These women don't necessarily always dress in skimpy clothing but they can come in all forms. Females know where they stand, they normally don't like to pursue. Women particularly want to act like diamonds sitting on the black velvet cloth, waiting for someone to pick them up and cherish them forever. Female players achieve this, receiving gifts from every direction. Like male players, there are obviously the successful and the unsuccessful. The successful female players are those who attract men with high credentials while the unsuccessful attract men who are simply allured by the natural female charm. It is possibly more difficult to spot female players in society.

Many women get raped these days and I have no doubt about it. I generally think the people I meet are safe but it is always better to be careful especially in unfamiliar surroundings. However, because of the fact that a higher percentage of women are raped than men raped, people automatically feel sympathetic towards women. Then what about the women that suck the life and money out of men within minutes? We should be feeling more sorry for these victims! After a woman is cheated, she gathers up with her girlfriends and schemes against the man. She immediately has support and is even working to take revenge! As for the men, they usually move on and think of it as only a part of life. He may also feel that it is solely his fault and stay depressed for long intervals of time. Men usually don't like to depend on each other for emotional problems. They might talk about it for a bit but the chances are that the male victim will be alone in the end and possibly consider turning homosexual. Maybe the man will never love again? Whatever he becomes, the chances of him taking advantage of a woman he loved so dearly (and most likely, still loves) is extremely small. There is always the possibility that he turns insane and starts slaughtering people around him--including his girlfriend, or maybe just her under some dramatic circumstance. I can definitely see how it'd happen.

"Caitlin!" He calls after her, "You sodkfodsf whore!"
She turns around, letting her beautiful blonde hair swift through the air like silk. After noticing that it was him, she continues to walk away.
The man runs towards her, "Tell me it is a lie, that you didn't cheat on me!" He takes her hand and firmly squeezes it.
The woman pulls her hand away from him, "It is as I said, you foolish fool. I have nothing to do with you anymore. Have a good life."
He falls to his knees as she walked away from him, "You will not get away with this..." He takes out a large scythe out of thin air from behind (huh?) and dashes towards her one last time.

The End.

Anyway, the best profession in the world is to be a player especially if you have poor academics and low motivation. That's probably the easiest way to live a prosperous life. Some of my friends may be opting to take that path; however, they may need a miracle or plastic surgery as a first step. Not saying they're ugly but if they want to be a spouse of a rich person, it's more likely to get a catch if you look like a celebrity. It may be good to practice playing people to learn the secrets of the human mind.

Otherwise, playing is bad. If you're an ex-player, don't keep saying it because then it's just suspicious. That's all for tonight. Time to turn in for bed. I can't promise any entries until I get time on my hands to think about the deep wonders of life. I apologize.